Mozza, now I see why you caught up with my sitch- yours sounds very similar.
You didn't mention any potential OM, but with your W's new circle of work friends (sounds familiar to me), keep your guard up. In my sitch, that seemed to be the catalyst for my W. Just be prepared so you don't act out of emotion should you find out something like that.
Seeing that your BD is still pretty new, I'd avoid any courting or initiating contact right now. For me, it's been over a year since BD and I still initiate very few conversations. Let your W get a taste of what she'll be missing without you. I think it's ok to accept some of W's invitations, but not all (being only 1 mo in, I'd accept less than 50%). The longer you remain available to her, the longer it will take for her to miss you/ the M. Focus on taking care of and improving yourself. Try some new things and spend plenty of time bonding with your Ds.
