Mindsin - pt. 5 (back to basics)

[mindsin]

So my focus on "backing off" began on Sunday afternoon, after I voiced my displeasure about her leaving to see the OM immediately after I came home from my weekend trip. I didn't call or text her the rest of that day.

I ignored her text on Monday morning. She gave me the cold shoulder Monday evening after she came home in the evening, and I consciously tried not to engage in conversation with her or even be in the same room with her. She went to bed w/out saying goodnight to me or even to our son (which is unusual). I texted her "good night". She didn't respond.

Tuesday morning, she asked me what my work schedule was for that day and said "alright I'm leaving", and left for work. She sent me a few e-mails throughout the day. One was regarding two Sundays from now where she planned to take the kids to the zoo, followed by a visit to her cousin's house. She knows I will be away for four hours in the afternoon, so she planned a day with the kids. Another e-mail was regarding an upcoming halloween party on the 31st hosted by the parents of one of my son's friends. A couple of weeks ago, she said it would be fun if we all went. Now, she says "I won't be available, but I think you should take them there." I didn't ask why she won't be available. The last e-mail was regarding the French language self-learning software (see the last page in the pt.4 thread).

She came home Tuesday night and was MUCH more cordial to me than on Monday. She tried to engage me several times throughout the evening regarding various topics of conversation. I didn't ignore her, but I was very short (but nice) with my responses.

She was very short-tempered towards my daughter last night for some reason. My daughter left her bedroom (where my W was) and went up to me (I was in the bathroom helping my son floss). She was crying and said to me repeatedly "I don't like mama". This is the first time I've ever heard anything like that from my daughter. I know she's only 3 years old, but her reaction was telling, and I KNOW my W heard this. I didn't know exactly what happened to make our daughter cry, so I peered into the room and asked my W, "what happened"? She only responded, "your daughter is sleeping with you tonight". My W was clearly upset. I left it alone.

This morning, she was relatively in a decent mood. She wished the kids a good day at school and even wished me a good day at work (which she never has since my 1st day on the new job). She caught a little bit of a cold so I told her that I bought some Dayquil the other day and it was in the medicine cabinet. As she grabbed her things, I said, "feel better". She replied, "thanks".