A day in nature will help temporarily, but you need to do some serious work, too. At least one session with an IC seems necessary in your sitch. Make your focus YOU and not your WAW now. Maybe this can motivate you to do that: If you don't take advantage of this crisis and make positive, permanent changes in yourself, even if she does come back it will almost certainly fall back apart at some point. That was the thought the kicked me off of the pity train and onto the path of self progress.

As MWD says, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. Don't sit around being the old dawgy, whether it's while she's running around, during/after reconciliation, or in a new R with someone else in the future. Roll up your sleeves, find some professional help and get to work.


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23