I don't think you blew anything. You could have ended the convo earlier but, I don't think anything was lost. She may be asking to justify her own actions but you can't mindread.

My W asked point blank if I was dating about a month ago, before I had even really started GAL/PMA in earnest. I regret not saying one of the things on that list.

M: 33
W: 33
M: 9 T: 10
3 S's: 8, 6 and 1.5
BD: 8/3/14
Living together