Hi Ahoy. You are increable and you are so strong it's amazing. If I read your posts correctly you still love H very much. I am very far from an expert but if it's ok I would like to give some advice. Please ignore if it's not what you want to hear. Your love for H is obvious in every post. If H is in a MLC ( and it sound like he is) then he is not sure about anything. Please don't act in haste No one has died. If you want to stand then do. If not don't. Time heals and all that and to me and others on here we would love to have someone like you in our lives You will meet someone else but if you want to wait and see if his fog lifts then you wait each path will be tough and to me your H doesn't deserve you but to me his just H. To you he is a friend lover partner and the rest. You love him. Please take your time you have loads of it. Make your decision with a calm mind my W sounds similar to your H and some of her actions are laughable but I'm trying to see if she in inside this new person or if she has evolved into this one. Your pain is felt by all of us on here but only you know your true feelings and even then you must be confused. Take your time. You will be happy again. You will. Take care
