This is a tough one, hang in there bud. I can feel for the uncertainty and the kids at that age. My W did stay home but was playing with the idea of a trial separation. Hasn't come to pass, and I think my 180's have gotten her attention, but apparently my judgment was so poor prior to this that I don't trust any of my instincts now.
Only things that have helped me have been the focus on me and the kids. Started exercising to help expel the poison. When you can, take the kids for short walks and to the park, things like that. Look at your shortcomings and fix them, permanently. Do it for you and the kids as your W may or may not come around. The only person you can control is you. Control you.
And avoid Snooping. That has been a killer for me and I'm doing better. Tired of the anxiety and weight loss it causes.
Good luck and God bless.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
