As to my shortcomings, and there were many, so I'll try to lump and then give specific examples.
She said she felt things started downhill after S3 was born. I didn't help out enough in general. Came home late from work so she felt like a single parent in the evenings. Of course we also had the lack of going out on any regular basis after second son was born.
About a year ago I had a change of vocation as mentioned in the first novel above. She saw it as me quiting, I saw it as me being run off. (Long story, for the next post maybe, related to complaint above) Best I can tell this was the tipping point for her, which is why it was mentioned in the novel. It was a major stressor for her and I misjudged the scope of stress.
More recently I would pass on some events she planned with her and the kids. She would plan a trip to, lets say, the zoo. She'd ask if I wanted to go, but she'd say that her mom would go instead if I had other things to do. Typically I would pass thinking she and her mom enjoyed time with the kids together. Another misjudgement on my part. There were other similar events like lake trips, camping, and lunch gatherings with friends/kids that I did not attend.
More on this in the next post.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
