I had a long, interesting text convo with WAW tonight. First long convo in 2 or 3 weeks. I would greatly appreciate some vet breakdowns. At first it was lots of light, fun talk about cute little D2. Eventually, this happened:
WAW: Can I ask an awkward question? Me: Sure WAW: Are you dating? Me: Of course not WAW: I'm guessing we would have talked about it. I didn't know if we skipped a conversation somewhere. Me: lol "oh forgot to mention this" WAW: Well I mean it's our situation Me: I mean if I was dating someone, who knows if I'd want you to know. But I don't want to even think about anyone else right now. WAW: I just wanted to know where we stood with that Me: I'm not salsa dancing to meet people, if that's what you're thinking WAW: I have no idea. I wasn't upset about it. Me: I figured you were just curious WAW: I just didn't know if we had decided. I thought you were Me: Really? WAW: Yeah Me: Why? WAW: I don't know, you're going "out" and stuff. Which is great. I just thought maybe you had been at least going on dates Me: No. Furthest thing from my mind (I was tempted to spill my guts about my GAL activities but resisted) WAW: Okay, sorry if that's awkward Me: No it's not. Me: There's lots I wish I could tell you but don't want to / can't until hopefully a day that you're ready (This was TMI, I think...I was hinting at things I've learned through this process) WAW: Ok WAW: For the record, if someone asks you, you should go. At least to have fun and learn more about yourself if nothing else. Me: I've learned more about myself the last 4 months than the previous 29 years WAW: Agreed WAW: This probably isn't the time or medium to discuss it Me: I know, I wasn't going to tell you anything. That's what I meant earlier WAW: And no one has asked me, at least not like for a date Me: Okay Me: They're all stupid, then (Too flirty? I thought it was just right and natural. Anyone think it sounds like it's validating her going on a date? She has to know how I feel about her with anyone else [not for it at all], so I can't imagine she got that impression. But would appreciate feedback)
The convo then went to lighter material and was fun. I was the one to end the dialogue while sneaking in a 180 tidbit ("It's been great talking to you but i need to run to Lowes. I've painted almost the entire dining room and now I'm out of paint" -- From 180 list: Initiative!)
I am battling trying not to mind read this. Some of it sounds like she was trying to open the door for her to start dating. Some of it sounds like she would like to see me start dating so that it will make it easier to "move on" as I will have started "moving on". I can spin it positive ways, too. Really, who knows. What I'm more interested in from people on this board is a grade of my DB skills in this convo. I just want to learn from any mistakes you see so I don't make them in the future. I know I've already learned some. I was tempted to ask her if she was dating (before she told me she wasn't). I was also tempted to ask her if she was wanting to be open for dating. I asked neither. This is a huge turn from the text convo I had with her a month ago or so about a guy who directly showed interest in her after they talked for a while at a party.
Last edited by Card29; 10/15/1404:34 AM.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
