When I was on the roller coaster, I gave up drinking. I don't drink much as it is (cheap date - inherited that) but it had a way of bringing out emotions in a bad way
Yeah, that could be playing with fire. I didn't either for a very long time. I know it not good to admit, but I did it a few times the past 2 weeks. My anxiety was so high the week my friend passes, among other things. I could not settle my insides at all. Or sleep for that matter. I'm not proud to say that I did have a couple to help me chill out. It did work, but it is not my style.
Having that happen over the weekend was eye opening as to the risk! My anxiety is down. I can chill now.
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It does feel good to take the high road. Even though I cut loose when the kids aren't around.
I want to clarify this. I don't "cut loose" when the kids are around. By that, I mean, I come here and express my feelings. Things I don't discuss with the kids. I really don't "bad mouth" xh. I speak the truth as I see it here. Vent. I'm not really into the whole bashing around town. Although I do want people to see them for who they are- they are doing that on their own. Not my job.
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Can I suggest something? Your daughter may be expressing her anger and "testing" you when she does. Remember that she is protective of you and what happened. Her way of dealing with it, right now, is to be angry and to express that. While you don't want to interfere, she won't understand you keeping her from bad-mouthing her dad in the way you intended. Or may not would be a better way to put that.
Please suggest away!! You are right. I do need to get her to express this anger in a more productive way. It is my job to show her that and teach her how. Thank you for pointing that out to me. She does not like to "talk" about it. She does tell me some things, when she gets really annoyed. I try to stay so neutral. It can be difficult. But yes, she is definitely expressing some anger when making comments. I guess I was thinking that by telling her not to talk like that, I was letting her know she does not have to on my account. Good call, AJ.
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She may have a few things to say about your health and upcoming surgery as well. I suspect that its not easy for her to deal with and learn how to deal with at the same time.
This ^^^^ I have not addressed yet. I would love to use it as a teachable moment with my son, but I don't really know that it's appropriate. I don't know what to do. I think they would be pretty upset. It is reality, but I don't know. I haven't said anything, really. I was just going to kind of play it off and leave it as "girl stuff", but I think d will ask questions about that. I think I am going to have to have my s drop me off and pick me up after surgery. Again... it's been on the backburner. I need to figure it out.
