I had the same thing happen with my wife. It was made to be all my fault and I took it that way for weeks until I found out about the OM. Now I realize that they do have to think that way to justify their actions.
Scary part was when I was reading through your post, I thought for a second you were the OM's GF!! Very similar situation and timeline to mine.
Biggest thing here is to concentrate on yourself. As much as it is hard to do, there's very little we can do to make our partner's come to their senses. They need to do that themselves.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
