Is it too late?

[123Gwen]

I have been reading quite a bit (thanks Cadet) and have started the divorce remedy. Since my husband has physically moved almost 2000 miles away my fear is that he will just forget we exist. I need a formal separation to protect what little remains of our finances. I have been a SAHM for 20 years and he always thought it added to our family life. Now I must have some sort of protection as I try to reinvent myself at 49. I am not mad but incredibly sad. He left me in an untenable situation. I look like a villain but he won't respond to me at all. He is running towards this woman. I mean he only talks to her and it is first thing in the morning and last thing at night. It frightens me for him.

Now that I am pushing a formal separation they have a common enemy - me. Luckily the state I live in has a 12 month separation requirement so he would have to initiate a D. Also in the separation papers I tried to make it more painful for him if he filed by requiring him to pay me more $ for health insurance. I am not trying to be greedy but I want to buy time for me to get on my feet and for him to try to get better. I just never thought after 25 years....the man I married doesn't exist.