Hello all. I've been reading the forums for a while, just registered.
I've been with my BF for 10 years, no kids. At the end of July, he came home one day and told me he was done with our relationship. He'd apparently had an affair, which I didn't see coming. I knew our relationship wasn't exactly what it had been in the past and that we had some issues, but not to this extent.
He told me he felt neglected; lack of sex, lack of quality time, no connection between us and "we have nothing in common" (which is ridiculous, we have tons of things in common). Of course he spoke nothing of his own wrong-doings, it was all a finger pointed at me. He felt he had addressed these things with me (personally I beg to differ), and he was too tired to try to work on our relationship, he just wanted out.
He claims that he's not "in a relationship" with the person he was having an affair with it's just sex. But they do spend time together, and are physical. I do know her personally, as an acquaintance, as well as her husband. That's right, she's married. He says she's separated from her husband, but from what I can tell, she separated just at the same time he told me we were done -- like I'm not supposed to think it was a set up so they could rush into a relationship together, or something. Who knows.
Anyway, I moved out because I can't afford our apartment on our own. I've been out for a couple of weeks and after all the details on the separation have been dealt with, I'm not contacting him first. No texts, no calls, no nothing; giving him time to miss me.
I'd love for him to come to his senses and decide he does have feelings for me and he wants to be with me, but I guess all I can do is fix me and try to move forward. I know fairy tale endings don't happen.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
