Your anger and self-righteous indignation is oozing out of your post from every orifice imaginable. I could easily put my finger on the screen and wipe it off.
I do feel for you. We all get it, buddy.
Originally Posted By: dawgy
I will defintely take son to IC after he finds out what a disappointment his mother turned out to be . When he finds out she s been running around like a tramp cheating on his father and spending time and money on the man who is helping her tear apart our family.
This is incredibly judgmental. And it comes out as if you are really wanting your own son to see what a "bad" woman your wife is....so it will all make you look better in your son's eyes? To what end do you hope to achieve by taking this stance?
In my view, you are holding on to a ton of resentment and keeping a scorecard that isn't helping your case at all. Why not work on forgiveness and learn to let go of that pain. It is only HURTING you...it is slowly poisoning your thought process.
Originally Posted By: dawgy
Remember how this got started??? She has been cheating on her family in case any of you forgot that point .
A gentle reminder that you're preaching to the choir here. We all are the LBSes with WASes who are in affairs. Many of us have come out of this awful crucible with stronger marriages. It can be done and it has been done. If you follow DBing principles laid out here. You're tooo angry with your sense of pride being bruised badly. I get that!!! Totally.
Originally Posted By: dawgy
Shame on her for harming her own flesh and blood . But she was given a fair amount of time to make things right and was tooo dam selfish and only concerned with her so called happiness . Well we will see how happy she will be out of her home , paying child support to two young men that wont be able to look her in the eye . Dam ... What a tradgedy Dawgy
I find that this type of finger wagging is a form of deflection to avoid looking into your contribution to the M's demise. You had a role in this: 50%. Yep. You.
Man up...and start owning up to your part in this situation. You're too busy walking around crying "I've been so wronged that W MUST pay!!!" that you are really overlooking your part in all of this.
Slow down. Your anger is really clouding your rational thought process.
Why don't you get away for a while and go out in nature for some reflection & introspection.
Lose the scorecard, Dawgy.
Bond stood for his wife for THREE LONG YEARS...and he's now happily reconciled with his whole family intact.
Do you love your wife enough to set aside your pride and work through this? It's up to you.
