I still do feel the need to clarify because I don't get closure... See how our last disagreement went? Without final agreement on bidding policy.
Do you see him agreeing with you as being closure? I am asking if agreement = closure. If the two of you hash out something and he refuses to agree 100%, do you feel as though you need to express you viewpoint more clearly in order for him to finally see where you are right?
Second question: Are you pretty much this way with everyone, or is with mainly just him? in other words, have you always been this way as long as you remember, or has this developed since knowing him?
If he does not agree with your viewpoint, do you feel it is a rejection of you by him? Are you able to hear an opinion stated and separate/isolate it so that it does not feel that it is a personal attack or rejection? In other words, can you separate his view point from being a personal aim at you? An example of this is when you were discussing you viewpoint of the business bids and he had a different VP. You felt rejected. Why? How were you tying yourself and the bid into being the same? Are you saying that Disagreement = Rejection? Can you have one in business and not in personal life? His Business Disagreement = Business Rejection? Yet, he told you to bid whatever you wanted. So it must mean that Business Disagreement = Business Opinion. What do you think?
I realize people can drag inappropiate wording into their opinions and that makes it personal. Like, "That is the most stupid idea I've ever heard!". Now if he words his opinions in that type manner, then it would be difficult not to take it personally. I hope you will enlighten us more.
We need to figure out a solution that will help you to not bring up this topic with him.........while we work on other solutions, too. Maybe someone will offer a great solution to help with learning about timing. "How to work the mouth......all in good timing!"
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
