Need help. Scared, confused pt 2

[Jefe]

Wow, Hope. This is a ton to digest in one brief sitting. Who are you? You have got some formal training and background in this, if my Spidey senses don't decieve me. I appreciate the time and effort you put into your reply.

I'm going to respond to the last portion right now as I need to re-read, ruminate, and re-read the rest of it again before I respond.

And, last but not least: Romance. What is her idea of romance? You were pretty good at romancing her once because (out of all the men in the world) she choose you. So we know you know what she likes. In fact, you know better than any man in the world. Are you aware of this?

Again, studies show a woman’s need for romance increases after marriage. So we need to put you into turbo-romance mode.

If I answered off the cuff whether I knew this or not I'd say no. But after thinking about our first year together, yes I do completely know that I know better than ANY man in the world, including OM1. I think of the movie Family Man with Nicolas Cage and Téa Leoni. He tries telling her on the stairs what a dirty girl she is and how hot she makes him and that just shuts her down, but later in the movie when he looks her in the eyes and tells her how beautiful she is and always has been and how he never stopped loving her and she just melts...that's my wife. I don't think she'd shut down at the dirty girl part but she most certainly responds the the fawning attention. Unfortunately I did most of my loving fawning when I was drinking and I found it harder to be that sincere sober. I still absolutely feel that way, just harder for me to express it. Guess I'd better figure that out before it's completely too late.

Thank you, again Hope. I will reply more tonight.