Yes..it does bug him to think the discussion is closed and I bring it up again. Clearly a GOAL I need to work harder on. I have changed my bulldog ways, but clearly not enough. I still do feel the need to clarify because I don't get closure... See how our last disagreement went? Without final agreement on bidding policy.
Good call that when I see these warnings to not continue to chew it out... very very good!!
What happens next is maybe what I should work on... I never seem to bring it up again. Either because it gets forgotten or I can't be bothered or now due to fear. Fear of rehashing this again. Fear of him labelling it my bulldog ways. Let it go!
Like you, I am the one who wants to work everything out by talking! YES... Me me me too!!! Admittingly, this is not a solution to everything....clearly. As above, I am learning how to not talk as a solution. So, unsure whether to bring this up again another day or not. I think his excuse of sleeping ends that discussion for him. Maybe another time... off topic, I can bring up learning to find solutions and compromises...like you suggest.
I agree.. I believe my mouth has hurt our situations in the past... so much!!! I fear having any disagreement with him now too. I agree when I do try to talk it out, it pushes him away. I do not want to be in a rel'p with him where I cannot discuss issues and that I do not stand up for myself at all... I fear this will happen. So, I want to be sure to say 'something' at times, even if its not quite right. We both need instructions on how to disagree and find solutions. I wish he would go to counselling with me.
I wish I wasn't PMS... now I am teary.
BTW... I like your math equations... they are clear & I am able to resonate very well with them!!!
Thanks so much!!
I think we are back to happy place now, although I realize I am emotional so will keep my distance today.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
