Thank you, Zeus! I am still a member. I told him I was willing to see what was possible still if he has a change of heart in the meantime, but he does want to go through with the paperwork. Perhaps during that process he will feel differently, but I can't count on that.

I too have reevaluated what I find attractive in a person. Character and values being top of my list now.

I can take that with me moving forward, and the knowledge I've gained over the course of the past 15 years.

My short-term goals: 1. familiarizing myself with the dissolution paperwork and finances, because it will give me peace of mind by feeling prepared. 2. practice compassion toward him, me, and my daughter. 3. not fixate on trying to solve everything at once.


M: 43 H: 39
D: 14
Married 15 Together 16
BD: 6/2014
S: 8/2014
OW revealed 10/2014
Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress
So over it!