Thanks for the support. I really agree with you. The reality is setting in. I'm somewhat confused by the up and down, but I just try and stay level all the time.
Seems the littlest things cause her to blow over. Really, I can't do anything right in her eyes. So, I step back. The less contact I have right now the better.
The latest, we exchanged vehicles for the day so I could take the kids for a bike ride. Went fine, until she found out I was at a dinner, and then she was upset about me using gas, which morphed into using her and controlling her. It's quite incredible to me to watch it occur. I stayed calm and validated her anxiety, and asked what I could do to help. The profanity laden tirade that followed was not helpful to me
I've called her on things that have confused me, when I haven't understood something. And she has admitted she needs to be more explicit. I believe she has several expectations of post Dev life that she is struggling with as they do Not come to fruition.
Anyways, all in all, I'm doing great! I will update with a few more details later today of some big things I need to decide.
