I was going to leave it there, but one more comment from me and he interrupts with "I thought you were done with this".
That pretty much backs up what I said in my last post. It does bug him to think the discussion is closed and then you bring it up again. Clearly, this needs to be a goal for you, Magic. Don't you think? You can use us to hash it out, if needed, to get it out of your system a little....until you can get control and discipline over it. I don't see this as being a piece of cake for you. But I do see it as rewarding, if you conquer it.
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My comment was that I could have not mentioned anything at all but thought it was better to tell him so that we could have a rule in place (re:bidding), and that if he has an issue/solution that wouldn't he bring it up to me?
Maybe the next goal would be to let go of your bulldog grip in these discussions. He already was irritated at you, right? He clearly did not wish to hash it out (for whatever reasons) and he was trying to leave (rushing to get out the door). So I would say your timing was off. When you see these warnings.....take care that you do not keep chewing on it.
Now, when the two of you are able to have a nice, quite, time alone (maybe by the pool or wherever) and he is relaxed, try to approach the subject of this issue differently. Do not make it about him falling asleep and ending the call. You lose the whole point by throwing that little issue into this. Make it about the two of you learning to find a solution or compromise with the issue of your need to exhaust topics vs his need to end you talking abruptly. And, I hate to say it, but I have to believe the way he's doing this is more about him ending you talking, rather than closing the topic. Think about it.
These very things can work like a computer worm in a R. It just slowing corrupts the good parts.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
