my chance = HIS chance

[makingmagic]

well, that didn't go as well as I would have liked it.

I was going to keep my mouth shut and not say anything... maybe I should have.

I gently approached the subject when he brought up the fact that our bid won. I started with the fact that I was not comfy with bidding without his support. He got defensive right away and told me I should bid without his consent as he was truly not invested in this purchase & fell asleep. I told him I was left hanging and thought we should discuss a rule on this and that abrupt discussions are not conducive to "getting along". He pointed out that my DD and I do it to him, all the time. I know she does, but I don't...He insisted he fell asleep and that is why the convo ended abruptly. That there is no rule when you fall asleep.

I don't believe him but did not say so... my face may have and he was insistent on insisting that I was making a big deal of it all. I was quiet, I didn't know what else to say or how to respond.

He asked if we were done? I nodded and he was rushing to get out the door.

I was going to leave it there, but one more comment from me and he interrupts with "I thought you were done with this". My comment was that I could have not mentioned anything at all but thought it was better to tell him so that we could have a rule in place (re:bidding), and that if he has an issue/solution that wouldn't he bring it up to me? Again, he insisted that he was sleeping, there is no rule & that this will happen again because I can bid without him. If it was an issue for him and he wanted to bid much more, then we would discuss it ... if need be.

So.... I guess that is the new rule.

But, we both left frustrated.

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Thanks for chiming in Eric... I am just reviewing your post now.

Thanks Sandi.... I wonder if there is anything to say now? or leave it alone (based on clarifying/closure comments). My guess is leave it be now. I just want us back to our happy place... how do we get there?