Well, I guess all the suspicions have been confirmed. While you are handling this with poise and dignity, I know its hard to actually hear those words from someone that you loved and trusted.
FWIW, I read your posts, and I think about all the adversity you have been through and I think - "She's going to come out of this just fine".
I assume this will affect D14 as well and I am sorry for that- very tough for a 14 year old girl to lose respect for her Dad. I know you have the strength to help her through it.