What gives me some hope is that she is confused and has stated that to me. She says "I don't know what I want", which is very different from "I have no feelings for you" and "I want a divorce."
I see why 25yrs is advocating more for "be patient, show compassion and let her figure out her way out of this mess". But I also see the point of a hard line.
Another somewhat hopeful point...during our discussion last night (again she initiated it), she commented that she did not know what to do. I said that we could start with eliminating love busters as mentioned in the 5LL book. She said that she had read this book and really liked the analogy of adding or decreasing coins from your love bucket. I would not think she would read that is she was dead set on leaving. I think it is her addition to the OM that is holding her back. I Just don't know how or when she will reach rock bottom.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
