Trying to keep my initial postings as quick as possible so I get out of moderation.
One other thing is after our first counseling session, when I uncovered that I had already spoke to a lawyer; she approached me in the parking lot and said "I'm not pursuing anything with the lawyer."
Why on earth would you tell her that you've met with a lawyer?? There's a reason they put that little "v" in between the names of the parties, MCS. Ours is -- by design -- an adversarial legal system, and it's foolish to tip your hand.
Meet with a good family law attorney, yes -- that's wise. To better learn your rights and responsibilities, etc. Then, armed with knowledge, you DB and GAL while you set strong boundaries. But TELLING her you're meeting with an atty is just "nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah" childishness at best, and foolish at worst.
