Okay out of moderation, here's some background on where I see some of the issues in our marriage:

-Her sense of "individuality" especially since the kids were born (her words)
-Her trying to do too many things outside of the house caused conflict (my words)
-I'm a homebody and normally would like to stay home w/family instead of running around
-She felt that I was controlling (her words.) I can see that to an extent because of the things above, but it never seemed to be over the top.
-She would avoid confrontational topics and would make plans w/o me then ask if it were okay (this was the biggest warning sign)
-We got complacent (work, eat, kids, bedtimes, tv most days)and stopped spending quality time for our marriage
-Workshare at home. We both had importance on different things
-Some professional competition. We are both in the same industry and we had different satisfaction levels with our jobs. Mine good, hers bad.

M:36 W:37
T: 15 M:11
S6 D5
BD: 8/10/14
IDLY: 8/12/14
S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids)
D Mentioned: 10/15/14
Confronted about OM: 10/15/14
EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13
She filed: 8/15 (not final)