I am scared, I am scared of making the wrong decision and breaking up my M.
Make no mistake, if your marriage ends it will be your wife' stubborn refusal to at least cut off her contact with her OM and WORK at the marriage with you.
There, I said it: I don' think she's "confused" at all; I think she's STUBBORN, and she can't make up her mind. Neither can you, lol, but at least you are faithful and trying to make a go of this!
If your wife ended all contact with her affair boyfriend and came back and worked on the marriage with you, exclusively . . . with the help of a good MC trained in dealing with infidelity . . . and you guys maybe did a Retrouvaile weekend or something along the way . . . and if after say a year her feelings for you weren't returning and/or she was still unhappy in the marriage . . . then fine, end it. The right way.
To do what she's doing now is gutless, it's deceitful and it's incredibly disrespectful, I'm sorry.
