Live now, I'll explain my take on MLC lala land. I had an MLC and was in lala for a couple of years.
There is no time for any thought of anything but the pain inside your head. Picture the worst physical pain you ever had in your life and transfer that into your mind. It hurts! It hurts to the point you are just trying to get through another day alive. You think to yourself this can't go on. Day after monotonous day. Like a walking zombie! There is no energy to deal with much outside of your own mind.
I can't believe I wasn't fired during that couple years. I did very little productive at work. I would think how f'd up I was but could not figure a way out.
One day out of the blue the answer came. The shell broke open. Why? I don't know but it did. Hearts blessings stages of MLC describe it well. I travelled all of them. Mine took 2 1/2 yrs start to finish. It would not have mattered one iota what anybody else would have said or done. It was my path to travel.
With that being said. You need to be good to yourself and travel your path. There are no garauntees he comes out of lala land. You can be in a good place should that happen.
I feel for you, and understand and hope you continue to look out for yourself.
