"Ok im going today.. how should i go.. thinking of buying chocolates and flowers and saying its a shame that it didnt work out.. im always here if you need me. And then go.."
I seriously hope you didn't do that. All of that is just a show that you're trying to put on to get her to pity you.
What is one thing that has shown that you've actually actually listened to us?
I did do it.. i ask for advice before acting out what i plan.
I am focusing on myself right now.. i have been actibely seeking work for my freelance work to keep me busy during the evenings. I am trying to do constructive things.
I want to learn to ride a motorcycle so im focusing on that. I want new skills. I am seeking out local counsellors in my area that i am residing at the mo.
i am re reading db. I am constantly reading sandis golden rules. I am trying not to think about the R but myself and how i can be a better person. I am trying to move forward and i am giving her the time and space she needs in order to let her figure out things on her own.
She tells me she wants to make new friends and do new stuff.. she feels i dont condone such. I do but i also have controlling behavioural patterns which im sure you guys know about. Imtrying to change that. I am working on myself and trying to be whole and happy without her but still want the R to prosper forward.
