I guess there's no point in exploring H's LLs until he is ready to come around? (We are S and I'm in NC, so not many opportunities to fill tank, although I try to be unrelentingly positive when he does come around.)
I, and my DB coach disagree. You know your spouse better than you think. Take the quiz and answer the way that you know he would answer. Don't think too hard - use your gut. Hear his voice in your head.
And when the opportunity arises, use it. I had success on at least two occasions defusing a fight and encouraging forward progress (that my W then backed away from, hard). These instances create memories that the WAS has a hard time reconciling with his/her internal dialogue about you.
Squash that dread. You are actually doing work, growing, improving. It's your H with his head up his arse. (Middle English intentional)
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
