My goodness.....Thank you for the kind words, Mighty, uR, Heather, LiveNow, keep_going, Ahoy, Matt, Ats, and Fthnluv.
It's rather humbling to learn that my journal had such an effect. I tend to have a hard time with compliments. I'm now learning to accept them.
You all encourage and inspire me, consistently.
keep_going, it was especially meaningful to read your post, knowing how long you've been here, and how seldom you have posted. Thank you for that. Your post stunned me still for a bit. In a good way .
Journaling:
Today is day 2 of NC. For those who know me, I have really struggled with the limited contact piece and not pursuing. I've done well not initiating. NC scares the living schmidt out of me.
Nothing was exchanged whatsoever yesterday. Today, an email from H at 8:30 this morning. I have not responded.
My urge to communicate is surprisingly at zero. This, from the girl who used to hang on every notifications and words game, wanting H to stay somehow connected to me.
The email was 2 paragraphs of financial stuff...what he has paid (as if doing me a favor), and asking me if there is anything else to split besides me refinancing the car in my name.
Third paragraph was this:
"I hope you hear back something good from that job interview you had on Friday. I really do wish the best for you. You have some unbelievable great qualities and your are ridiculously beautiful. It is truly too bad about our history. Too much harm to overcome. But I gave it a chance. It just isn't the same."
His financial paragraphs had questions for me to answer. I'm not trying to drag anything out, but I didn't feel like working on that today. I was also, actually busy.
Kids and I had a fun afternoon and evening out. There is a dinner show kind of place that we had been to 15 years ago, when we happened to visit this state. The boys were little, twins 3, s 1. I came across an old photo of them at this place. We decided to "recreate" those poses, 15 years later, in the same setting. OMG.....we had a blast! It was rather epic.
I sent the "before" and "after" pics to their phones, and they were sharing them with all their friends, and posting to Instagram. Lots of giggles. I'm so glad they humor their nerdy mom's ideas.
I will be leaving town Wednesday-Sunday. Needless to say, H doesn't know. Not his business, especially since we don't share kids or anything.
With me being gone, I will not want to address H email until next Monday. I was considering responding something short, simply letting him know I'm not ignoring the questions, but I need to get back with him on them.
H missed a few things, but they are minor. He hasn't mentioned splitting retirement, but we've not been married super long. If we each keep our own accrued retirements and don't need to pay L to factor those amounts into the split, we will both come out better.
All of our M assets have been split or sold. M debt is almost gone. It's pretty easy-peasy. I just want time to research and try to think of anything left out before responding.
I'm open to suggestions and opinions if there is a better response than letting him know, "I'm not ignoring your questions, nor am I trying to stall. Once I have a chance to think about any details we haven't yet considered, I'll respond to the specifics."
I can send that for now, or send nothing. Is a week too long to wait to respond?
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