Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

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Thanks Christi. I will consider a call since my local counselor is out for the next two weeks due to a surgery she's having.

That's a fair question and observation mrbond. That was the condensed version so I left out all the ways I suck, and there are many. Too many to type from my phone. Since these threads are a journal of sorts I will put together the things I was told or self identified and get back.

I went and looked and I've made it through chapter 4 of the book. Honestly the changing myself has been my focus as I realized through counseling and reflection that I can only change me. I also know she's noticed some changes as she's made comments about them. I guess I still dwell on the A because I don't see the two of us working on the problems in the R while it continues underground. Additionally, I don't want to miss that transition if/when she actually ends it because I've grown tired of the stories that have all been lies before.

More to your subtle point, I plan to get back to reading in my alone time. Thanks for the reminder to look at the big picture.