So this weekend was a huge event for the W and I, a car meet on the other side of the country, where we met two old friends and carted our show car on a trailer. OM2 has been going through some major marriage issues of his own, and has been talking to my W on their messaging app of choice. W says it's solely for support and he has nobody else to talk to about it (he probably doesn't), but she has yet to give me full disclosure/access. Still, we've been working on spending QT together, I've refrained from snooping, and this trip was going to be a really big thing for us.
We met our friends at their house, which is actually our house that they are renting, and OM2 was messaging W that there was some horrible stuff going on and he needed to get away from the house (she has been known to be physically abusive). We offered him a seat in the SUV to take him to the event with us, but when the time came to leave, he didn't show. Fast forward, he ends up going to the airport and getting a one-way ticket to where we were headed, and so he joined us at the event. I was encouraged though, because W had no problem showing affection towards me in front of him, she seemed to prefer my company, and when we went out to the bar she gravitated towards me, not him. If you remember from previous posts, the last time she, I, and an OM were in the same room and drinking was involved, she was blatantly flirtatious towards the OM, not me. We even fooled around in the hotel bed with OM2 sleeping on the floor next to us. I noticed her looking at me in a way I hadn't seen in a long time.
But of course, now I'm home and she's at a big event for work, and I realize I haven't kept any evidence of her being a wayward spouse. So I found a way to monitor the messaging app that she has been using with both OM's. She hasn't been talking to OM1 all that much recently, which is encouraging, but OM2 and her have still been telling each other how much they wish they could be with each other, exchanging nudie pics (she sent him one from the bathroom this morning) and they have been doing quite a bit of talking about his marital problems. So I emailed the entire thing to myself. The one short conversation with OM1 that I saw included him sending her a picture of his bicep. So there's still something there too.
What do I do? This weekend went so well and she's been telling me how much better our marriage has been, but I think that's all just that we haven't gotten into a fight. I may just keep the messages as evidence if needed later. Do I confront her or just act like I don't know anything? I feel like I'm doing everything wrong.
