Shining... thanks. You crack me up. And that darn wine... geesh! Yeah, today was different. I had a million feelings in like 5 minutes. Mostly, I hated him today. I don't like that either. But I want to feel it so I can get to a better place- for me!
Hope- I just got your 3 posts. You are awesome! You are right about the son & xh sitch. XH really does not have enough power or control to do anything. And it turns out, s took the opportunity to give xh a piece of his mind. I should not underestimate s17. I think he knew he was angry and wanted to really place it at a necessary source. He told me a little, but likes to keep those conversations a little to himself.
XH really has no control over anything that goes on with the kids. Shining asked what the custody papers say: well xh didn't ask for anything as far a custody. Nothing. The papers say joint, with kids living with me primarily, and that the kids are allowed to see their dad. It is basically up to them, if they want to see him or not. I asked the kids a head of time, and they said they wanted to be with me. So I never really pushed. XH lived in fantasy world. The only time he mentioned anything is when he was mad about child support. He said, well s17 will be 18 soon and I won't have to pay for him and d13 will want to come live with me. Say what? Um... no she definitely won't and child support is until they are 21, ya loon.
So thanks, Hope, for your compliments on my interactions w xh. It started from me going dark after nuke. I didn't know how to respond or what to say. I understand what they mean about going dark for YOU! Then it got to the point where I didn't know how to respond, so I would think about it. Then I realized that for the most part, I don't need to respond! Every time I became stronger and stronger. It feels really good. And I see that he keeps trying to get something from me... but in a very weak way. He does not have the real strength or courage to put forth real effort into anything. I don't necessarily mean r, but anything with me or the kids.
I know he is looking at me like what the heck?! He was my kryptonite. He made me weak. I would have gone to the end of the earth and back for him and he knew it. Now, I know he is looking at me like, "Who is this?"
Maybe he isn't, but it is nice to pretend!
So glad I didn't send a drunk text! Haha! I would never! At least I hope not. If I did, I would go cell phone free for eternity.
