I'm sorry not much has changed in your sitch. I can't imagine being together for 20 years, and suddenly not knowing where H even lives. Do you see him at all? Or is it just email/business stuff?
I'm glad to read you are getting out, GAL, and feeling good about your self-worth. Those are going to be bigger on my own to-do list going forward.
I wanted to know more about the spring 2015 throw-in-the-towel deadline. I'm asking because I don't know, not because I have an opinion. I may find myself in the same limbo soon, so I'm gathering info as much as I can.
So, my curiosity....
Why have the deadline? Is it something you decided on your own at one time, like an absolute limit? What, if anything, would have to change for your deadline to be flexible? What if your feelings change sooner, would you still hold out because you committed to spring?
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