Newcomer living in Hell

[bravo61]

is it a bad sign that the W has actually started to see the part she had in our marital problems but continues on. she is in C and she hasn't forgiven me yet but has me a little worried. i know that we could not reconnect until she forgives me. she says that is over regardless of my changes but has stated to me (in response to me saying i would not hurt her like that again) that i could. if you are done w/me, no i can't cause you are not open to feeling anything from/towards me again. she said that we were awful to each other. i told her that its a good thing we aren't those people anymore. this was a convo a whle back. just reflecting. on another note, i'm thinking about getting a lighthouse tatoo on my back (surrounded by crashing waves).