Fyi, DD sat at the kids table with me and 2 other moms.
How would you deal with this (below) using above approach?
Today, he texted and asked for my help down at the shop. I decided earlier that I was going to take my parents for a country drive & to a market. So to follow through with my plans, I left him frustrated with a project (not at me). I felt guilty but wasn't going to cancel on my parents yet again. I always do that. I mentioned that I would call to check in on him to see if he needed help when I got back. He did not motion to kiss me or to make gestures of acknowledgement...
The country market was closing, so this trip did not prove to be fruitful. When I returned, I called him from McD's asking if he wanted a coffee. He replied "yes, please". We drank the coffee, he brought out his cookies. He had found an old dresser and inside it were interesting brass handles/hardware that he knew I would like. He went back to work on our vehicles, he took a bit more of my help & then it began to rain. He was anxious to take the one vehicle back to his home shop to fix it outside of the rain. He jumped in his van and said "ok, Ive got a, b & c to still do, so I guess this is it?" I said "sure" and he immediately drove away. Again, no kisses or form of touch or affection. I was annoyed because I was wanting "time" more time together or at least for him to want/& ask. So, I called him immediately and asked "was I supposed to follow you back to the house to finish working?" He said "no, I can handle the rest on my own & to carry on" and that we need to figure out our bid for later or tomorrow morning..... so, I may get a text in a little while.
UGGHHHHHHH!! Carry on? Really... what is that? It feels like dismissal and rejection.
Is he suddenly feeling that we are spending too much time together & HE can determine when/how much time we create for ? or is it that he was truly preoccupied and busy with his own agenda? either way... I don't like the dismissal.
I really hope I'm done with PMS soon. I want reassurance & I don't feel I am getting it.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
