Thanks for the feedback, Sandi. I've been thinking about it and think keeping the house would make things even rockier than not.

- I would have a housemate I would have to kick out, in due time of course
- OR I would be struggling financially, which would be added baggage to reconciliation
- She probably only has negative memories tied to the house as that is where she was living when our M died (same reason neither of us want the bed)

So my plan remains to live in my mom's guest suite for 3-4 months after house sells, save some money, then move into an apt. And I don't think an apt of my own should be a barrier, either. I wouldn't immediately move in with her, anyway, if she wanted to reconcile. We would need to take it slowly. And we could afford to have two apt leases for a year or less (typical apt contract length).


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23