Thanks for the feedback, Sandi. I've been thinking about it and think keeping the house would make things even rockier than not.
- I would have a housemate I would have to kick out, in due time of course - OR I would be struggling financially, which would be added baggage to reconciliation - She probably only has negative memories tied to the house as that is where she was living when our M died (same reason neither of us want the bed)
So my plan remains to live in my mom's guest suite for 3-4 months after house sells, save some money, then move into an apt. And I don't think an apt of my own should be a barrier, either. I wouldn't immediately move in with her, anyway, if she wanted to reconcile. We would need to take it slowly. And we could afford to have two apt leases for a year or less (typical apt contract length).
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23