Isn't cake-eating when she's getting needs met by BOTH parties?
Right now, she doesn't need me for anything. She gets no support from me -- emotionally, physically, or financially.
The only thing she "needs" me for is to help around the house and to be a co-parent to our children. Those are two things that I obviously won't be giving up.
Spending less time with my children is not something I'm willing to do. Besides, I don't ever want to give her any sort of ammunition to be able to say I was not there for our children during this time.
Not helping around the house will be a complete reversal of the 180 I've been doing since BD, and back to my "old ways", so again, counter-productive.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
