She still has to work through her own sh't. Can you accept it?
Yes Sandi, that's the question I've been wrestling with today. If we're not exclusive towards each other during those 6 mos, I just don't know that I can a) sit around and put my M on hold while I 'wait' for her to decide to give it a shot AND/OR b)be ok with her possibly dating others during those 6 mos. However, if we're able to set some ground rules during that time (ex- no dating others), maybe I'm ok with the continued time apart?? I just don't know that I see that being her approach.
I agree with your interpretation of her text though- I don't see her wanting to continue with MC/dating. I am glad that she finally realizes that she has some things she needs to work on for us to have any possibility of working out. If we are able to work it out in the long run, we will both be better individuals. But, if we're not dating, she needs to understand that she runs the risk of losing me forever, which will be the case.
I'm not sure how soon all of this will occur as she can't afford a 3 bedroom apt with out at least selling her car. Or she's going to ask me to take out a 401k loan for her, which I will not be doing, which may lead to some tension. I also have no idea if she's wanting to remain M during those 6 mos or move forward with a dissolution.
As per her previous method of communication when she has something 'big' to say, I've been expecting an email any minute from her with the logistics as it's less emotional and confrontational than a phone call.
