What do vets think about this: Is selling our house going to make the "road home" rockier for WAW? Keeping it is a very difficult option. She is really pushing for the sale, followed by split finances. So keeping our sitch the same as it is now is not an option.
I don't think it means you keep everything the same. Certainly, you have to be smart financially. I hope you won't mind, but here is a little copying/pasting from where I gave my own idea to another poster who asked about the same question. I hope you will see the meanings in my little analogy here.
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Keeping the road home paved smoothly means not making things more complicated and difficult to work it out. Just for one example, getting involved with another woman could cause more complications in your stitch.
To me, it means that you shouldn't lay traps, set detours, have hidden signs, or place barriers across the road. And of course, don't burn all the bridges. Btw, don't try to hitch a ride with her and offer to drive. smirk
Some men want to lay the asphalt with gold, install bright street lights on each side of the road and have flashing neon arrows pointing over his house, have road rails to keep her from leaving the road, and place barriers across any other road she might take. They want to have a service station every mile to help her with any new issues. They really would like to serve as a traffic cop! And to top it off, they want to buy her a new Cadillac.....with a map inside. They figure it couldn't hurt.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
