Sounds great, Bart. All I have to add is to be there to encourage her b/c she will have some tough times ahead. I hope she has some resources to help her through the detaching & withdrawal period. It is hard for her not to defend herself, but you absolutely told her right. No contact means no contact for any reason, even if she is defending you or herself. Right now, she doesn't see they don't deserve her response, however, some day she will see it.

Maybe I have already said this on your thread, but transparency, I believe, is also for the WW, to help her stay strong as she works through this hard period in the MR. It has to be team effort in order to work best.

Very good job, Bart!

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!