THIS [censored] (as usual)... no one wants to sit at the kids table. LOL... I didn't make a big deal & enjoyed myself at the kids table. Good convo's.
Wow, you handled it quite well, I think. I don't know that I could have been as gracious....since you were a guest after all. Although, you might look at it as they did not see you as a "guest" but still part of the family. (Why didn't they put your DD at the kids table?) Oh well, doesn't matter now.
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As you can see Sandi... I do struggle with him taking me for granted & where he places me in his priorities...... Any ideas as to how I can balance all what I want & get what I need? I don't want to fall back into the same relationship again.
As much as we women do not want to have to spell it out for our men, I think that is exactly what you will need to do......in order for him to do differently. You asked for what you wanted this time (him carrying you to the dinner) and he did it. I'm glad his attitude wasn't sour about it.
Another thing I think I have learned where the MIL's fall on the priority list (which is usually ahead of us) is that some men look at it as to who will give them less grief over something. So, maybe that is true in other cases with other people involved? IDK, we can ask the guys here. I think for the most part, either gender can take the other one for granted due to laziness, bad habit, inconsideration, etc. I really wonder if it crosses the mind of some H's that they are taking the W or GF for granted in their actions.
That's all I know to do, MM. Take the small stuff as it comes and don't make big issues out of them. I think I can almost guarantee it won't be as big a deal to him as it is you. So, just spell it out, just object lessons or pictures.....you know, whatever it takes to get through to him.
I'm proud of you handling things like you did.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
