Also whether or not it's a porn "addiction" or just more than you're comfortable with. I've never brought it up with any IC/MC so I have no idea where that line might be. When I protested his use of it with my H, he just said very gently and calmly that porn was something all guys did and that it wasn't reasonable for me to expect him to stop. I didn't have enough nerve to pursue my perspective of the topic, and it got swallowed up with how huge our other problems were, so I never investigated the truth of his claim. If you get some insight, please share it!!
I'm not going to tell you to stop tantruming, because just as the 2x4s are helpful so are the broken places. If you were upbeat and enthusiastic all the time there'd be nothing to help you with.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
