So we're moving forward very slowly and carefully. W sent the NC txt to OM, copying me and OM's GF. Commitment to full transparency, complete truthfullness and giving me the access I require to eletronic devices made.
Like the crazy 20 somethings they both are, OM and GF both resonded spewing crap, but so far W has stayed above it and maintained NC. She has asked me if she can respond to defend herself, to which I said no- W needs to not be emotitionally vested in what these people think, and she's not there yet. Very frank disucssions where W acknowledges she still has work to do to completely detach, but A is clearly over. W shared details with me about the crazy fight with OM and how she filed a police report. W has also voluntarily reached out to MIL and SIL to tell them its over and ask for their support and help.
Tone of our conversations have changed and W is being open about her emotions and feelings in ways I don' think I've seen before, even discussing how she finally realized how destructive A was to her and us and why she went to OM in the first place, and why A continued even though she knew it wasn't good for her. She's got a long way to go to be emotionally free of OM but she is committed to getting there, but I know that will take time. I'm also detached from her and have a long way to go to both trust and desire her again.
So, slow baby steps. Long, long road but we are walking side by side for the first time in a long while.
Last edited by Bart42; 10/13/1404:28 PM.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
