Then my MIL got on the phone. She was much calmer than my FIL and explained that she and her H both voiced their displeasure to my W. She said my W basically ignored them and just left. I told them that I am sorry for this mess and I emphasized how this is unfair to them. I assured her that I will do my best to come back as early as possible on Sunday to get the kids.
^^^This sounds like an apology to me.
Again, I don't understand how you can't put boundaries in place... unless, of course, you are willing to have an open marriage. That is what you seem to have at the moment. Your W comes and goes as she pleases, is open about spending time with her OM, and instead of letting her live her life while you live YOUR life separately, you complain to her that she should be spending more time with her family.
I encourage you to step outside of your hurt and pain and desperation to save your M and prevent your child from being hurt and try to see this from a more objective viewpoint.
She has zero incentive to do anything differently. You cannot control what she does. Heart to heart talks probably won't have much effect on her. You can only control you.
I dunno. Maybe Mr. Bond or someone else can articulate it better, although I think they already have. Good luck to you.
