My question was framed more in the sense of did our (the LBS) controlling get us here in the first place (Speaking of my own situation mostly) and the WAS's behaviour is just an over reaction to that or is it just a mental defect with all WAS's.

But you took the answer in a whole other direction that makes that question moot.

Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3