newbie needs help part 5

[igit]

I hope this worked. Igit here! craziness continues. this weekend I got up Saturday and planned on taking kids to pick apples at an orchard. Wife asked me why I got to do all the fun stuff with the kids. I told her she could go if she wanted! she said no she didn't want to go! Anyway plan for day was she take kids to volleyball and then I would take to pick apples. she called after volleyball and asked me what I was doing! I told her I was working and that she could take kids to pick apples! I was going to leave town for the night. she asked if she could drop eye drop medicine to me at office. I said not necessary I would just see them tomorrow.
anyway I stopped home to get my stuff to go to cabin and she was at home. asked me if I wanted to go with them to pick apples. I said no I made other plans. then I then told her something needed to change with the living arrangements. I left it at that and left. This morning at 530am when she was driving to work I sent her a text and told her I wanted to talk to her tonight. she then called> I should not have engaged in call, she started to push my buttons. I told her I couldn't be living with her while she was still involved with OM. she told me I wasn't listening to her! I didn't trust her and she was sick of it! She said she wasn't involved with him any longer! I told her I understand your frustrated by I didn't believe her! She was at his home 2 months ago and I had no reason to believe her! Anyway then she claims she wasn't happy with our M and wanted out! I told her that was apparent with A and I wasn't going to stay with her until June under the same roof. She said she wanted to work things out without attorneys. I told her then call her attorney and tell him that and find out what to do! She said she wanted to go mediation route to keep attorneys out. well what she doesn't understand is mediation is in place just know date has been granted for a prelim hearing! She claims she hasn't spoken to her attorney in 2 months. Anyway my options on this are 1. stay in home with her and continue to take kids to school and continue GAL, 2. ask her to move out and go dark with no contact, and just see her at mediation which sounds like it would start sometime around holidays! 3. me move to sisters home and go dark, let her see what a D will be like without me! just looking for feedback from vets