We don't have a parenting schedule in place. We both live under the same roof and on most days, we parent them together. We agreed on this because we felt it was best for the kids. In fact, it is almost always my W who suggests family time (weekend day trips and such). It absolutely is cake-eating, but what else can I do at this point? I failed to set that boundary early on, and that's my fault.
Right now, I am going to continue focusing on myself, making myself the best man, husband, and father as I can be. Being on a "team" with her parents will not bring her closer to me, but my FIL believes it may make my W realize that there is an additional cost to her actions (losing her parents' respect) that she may not have faced up to in the past. My FIL believes this will be the case once he sits down and has a heart-to-heart talk with her. He said he wants to wait a couple of weeks and then sit my W down with himself and his W (both parents) over some coffee and have this talk. Culturally speaking, my W is very big on "saving face". Family shame could indeed come into play here -- not only with her parents, but with her large network of aunts, uncles, and cousins. I understand that a WAW cannot be shamed out of her fog, but this is something that is out of my hands. Her parents are going to do this because they want us to remain married and they are looking out for the well-being of their grandchildren first and foremost. They understand the impact of divorce.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
