Jefe, have been following you of late. I know all too well the inner turmoil and inability to maintain detachment. It takes practice and we all get better over time.
I am not doing very well myself. D happens in one week. I don't know if anything I did could have stopped this train since BD, but the DB'n has helped and if the STBX has doubt's in the future, they may stem from something as simple as a single incident where you got it right.
I'm here in DFW, too. So you are not alone in that sense, either!
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20