Thanks, uR. I know she is dealing with a lot. That's what has worried me the most, because she is doing so well! But I see the small things, the hardening, that no one else would. Even her dad.
I do take the high road with their r. And you are right; it does feel really good. D said something rude about her dad today as I was walking out of the room, but I did turn around and tell her not to talk like that.
Even though I listen to her vent about her dad, which is very seldom, because she really acts like he does not exist, I don't let her say disrespectful things. It does feel good to take the high road. Even though I cut loose when the kids aren't around.
I don't really bring xh up with her (or s17) because they get really irritated. When I do talk about him, I tell them stories they'd want to hear. Funny things we've experienced and things like that. Good memories. They do like that.
But they don't like to talk about his current sitch. I don't blame them.
I am just not sure exactly what I should do for her. S17 is in counseling. D13 says she would never go and if I made her she would just sit there and not say anything. But she keeps it all in. She is a really good girl. Very down to earth. Every one loves her. I just hope I am doing right by her. I pray that I am.
