Mighty, I used to say that I wish I didnt have to learn what I did in the way it played out, but, then it would have been a different journey. So, I dont say that anymore. I am forever grateful.
A daughter at 13 is a rollercoaster ride in the best of circumstances. Throw in all this crap and strap yourself in...
Like my bud, AJ wrote..she is angry...she is also confused and hurt and has hormones raging.
Here's what I decided for me when I was going through this along with my son. I would cause no harm to the relationship he forged with his dad. No comments from me, no eye rolling, no disrespectful words, no getting involved in it all.
Be consistent in your words and actions. Keep communication open, but, give her space. Try really hard not to take it personally.
Your best gift to her is getting yourself good and strong. You have an amazing opportunity to show her how to navigate through life's tough parts with dignity and grace. What an amazing thing to be able to do.
